As far as i've noticed. We people are afraid of change. There's something i've held onto which'd be,

"Are you really happy or are you just really comfortable?"

Sometimes without realising, we're just really comfortable. Afraid of losing what we have now. Thinking that sacrifice automatically means 'loss'. I'm not sure what has gotten into me but i've reached the phase where I try to help and understand everyone because i'm fully aware of how everyone's facing their own demons. I believe there's a story behind every one.

Also, I've noticed there is never a way of pleasing anyone so why change for them? You have what you have now so flaunt that shit. Don't change anything about yourself. Why do I think this way? Let's just a give a fair example, I have a friend who is really loud and loves laughing. Yes it might be annoying and some people might hate her/him for that but then I think to myself, although it's annoying, if he/she changed, things won't be the same because it what made him/her.../him/her. 

Then again, why are we so afraid to try? Go ahead, lie to yourself saying you're not when you most absolutely are. Remember that girl/boy who gave up? No? Me neither. No one gets recgonized that way. I'm going to say it straight, there are some seriously hilarious idiots on Youtube who got famous for them trying so hard to sing but failing. Although it's such an epic fail, they're famous and admired. Why? because they had the courage. They took a chance, they tried. It might not've been the best but they chased after their dreams and although people are laughing they're famous anyways so whatever.

I've gotta admit, i've been trying to fit in ever since I was a child till I realized one day that I was born to talk a lot & I might not've been born with such messy and curly hair but with beautiful straight hair which turned bad due to chemicals i've toxicated it with throughout the years but since i'm stuck with it now I shall flaunt the shit out of it. Why be sad? Why regret?

Yes, i'm also going to admit my life hasn't been all sunshine and rainbows. This year i've recieved a few comments in which people are saying i've been talking less. Well, i've learned a lot this year and i've changed. I've got a slightly tougher grip on my self control in which I totally did not have last year. I have entered a phase in life in which I spend most of my time in my head because I feel it's safer there. 

I actually applaud myself when I get a firm grip on things. 

Life doesn't always have to be sad. I assure you if I had to stay sad for everytime I felt sad, i'd be a seriously depressed person out of help. I'd show you the nastiest parts of life and how cruel this earth can be. How judgemental everyone and how bad every single thing in life is. But it doesn't have to always work that way. There's another side in which it takes great power to unlock. The key to true happiness is,

BEING YOURSELF. LOVING MORE. HATING LESS. 

OH AND LOVE YOURSELF.

Sounds cray cray? Loving yourself might sound like you're being a narcissist but come on, you don't have to get up to that level. You have to love yourself. That's what I find very important. You know this saying?

You either kill or get killed

It's true. But it doesn't have to be as cruel as that. Why don't you just mind your business and stfu and stay in your den instead? Aha that's basically what i've been doing anyways. Loving yourself means knowing when you're wrong and apologizing. But not being sorry for being real and feeling happy about it too. Ah that's the true key to loving yourself. Sorry for having feelings? Nuh uh. You can give out love and it's up to that certain person to choose whether or not to accept it but it's not something you have to be sorry for. 

LISTEN. DON'T BE SORRY FOR HAVING FEELINGS. 

Another key of loving yourself is not to let others step on you. Hell no. It's YOUR life. I'm not saying you can be bad and go cause mayhem or something because no, that's wrong. Do whatever you like but don't let it affect others negatively. I'm teaching you how to not be affected by someone negatively and i'm sure as hell did not mention that you should do the same to others. Why? because this way, the chain will never break.  People go around hurting you and then you hurt others and so on and guess what? This world would stay in chaos and no one's happy? Got it?

EMPATHY

Ahh also, hate less. This might sound very stupid because everyone says it but nobody really does it. You see, the key to hating less is by understanding more. Put yourself in their shoes. For example, some people might find beggars very annoying. You see, you never know. That beggar might have a child at home in which is sick and needs money for medication. Still not feeling it? Alright, next example. Imagine you were in that very beggar's shoes. Okay so you live in a house and your wife has left you for richer man and you are certainly very heartbroken and on the verge of dying yet you have a daughter in which you love so much who also happens to be dying because of the lack of medicinal care. You beg for money from people whom you've helped in the past but they reject you thoughtlessly and you think to yourself "Why are you so cruel?! I need it!" but in the other person's eyes, they don't really see it because they're not you, and they're not facing it. You see? You could be that very person without even realizing it. The other person might just be like "ahh i'll give him money next time. No biggie. I need to buy doughnuts cause i'm hungry" thinking it's certainly no biggie. When to the beggar, you have just caused a very big lost of hope in his life. 

REMEMBER, NOT EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT YOU KNOW AND HAVE FELT WHAT YOU'VE FELT.